Dying Cat – Caring For a Dying Cat & Signs of Death Approaching

Do cats know they are dying?    Physical signs   Behavioural signs    Palliative care     When is the right time to have my cat euthanised?

dying cat

At a glance:

Each cat’s experience of dying is unique, it can be long and drawn out or the cat may go into sudden decline. Your role is to provide comfort and care while your cat is in the process of dying.

It is hard for pet owners to know when it is the right time to euthanise a cat and guilt is an extremely common emotion afterward.

In this article, we take a look at the physical and behavioural signs that a cat is dying and provide a platform to talk about your own experience.

Physical signs:

  • Noisy or laboured breathing
  • Unkempt coat
  • Loss of appetite and thirst
  • Weight loss
  • Seizures
  • Sleeping more, some cats may have restless sleep patterns due to discomfort
  • Decrease in urination and bowel movements
  • Incontinence
  • Odour
  • Drop in body temperature

Behavioural changes:

  • Hiding
  • Changes in cognitive function such as confusion
  • Social withdrawal or clinginess
  • Loss of interest in surroundings
  • Crying

Final signs of death:

  • No pulse
  • No heartbeat
  • Coldness
  • Fixed eyes
  • Enlarged pupils which don’t respond to light
  • Eyelids slightly open
  • Relaxed jaw
  • Release of bladder and bowels


Cats with a terminal disease can live for months or even in some cases years.  But there comes a time when death approaches.

Do cats know they are dying?

According to Desmond Morris, in his book, Cat World, cats don’t understand death or know they are dying. Pet owners assume cats must know they are dying because many hide in the days or hours before death. But hiding is typical behavior in animals who are sick. A sick animal wants to make himself as inconspicuous as he can to avoid becoming a target to other animals which may see him as an easy target. Predatory animals pick out the young, the old and the weak. So from a self-preservation angle, it makes sense that a sick cat wants to hide.

As most of us know, when we feel sick we feel miserable. We are weak, tired and feel unwell, the best thing to do is bunker down somewhere dark and try to rest and cats do this also.

Why do cats go away to die?

Not all dying cats hide, none of my cats have. They have all slept more in the last day or so, but always in their usual spots. All of them retreated within themselves with almost no interaction in their final day. The fact my cats didn’t vanish or hide may be because they also indoors, so didn’t have the opportunity to go and hide in a shed or wander into the bush. A cat who is outside and becomes seriously ill (through trauma or disease) may not always have the strength to return home, so will find a quiet hiding spot such as a shed or under a house.

There’s a difference between your cat slowly losing his health to progressive diseases such as kidney failure and cancer, which can take months to the very end stage of your cat’s life. Below are signs that your cat is actively dying and is very close to death.


Physical signs your cat is dying:

No longer eating or drinking

A very sick cat loses his appetite. This may be due to feeling extremely unwell, being too tired to eat, less need for food due to inactivity. He may remain thirsty and some will even drink a little. By this time dehydration is usually severe. The day before my cat died from chronic kidney disease would hang over his water bowl, but he was too sick to drink.

Urinary and/or fecal incontinence

Many gravely ill cats will urinate and defecate accidentally and it is common for them to have developed diarrhea by this stage. Please don’t be upset if this happens and make sure you keep your cat’s bed clean so he can remain as comfortable as possible.

Difficult or laboured breathing (dyspnea)

Normal respiration is 20-30 breaths per minute, in the dying cat, breathing may be rapid, slow, noisy, or even be pauses between breaths (apnea) or your cat may experience shortness of breath.  Right before death breathing may become rasping and spasmodic as the respiratory system is shutting down.

Many cats in pain will also pant.

Drop in body temperature

Normal body temperature is 100 – 102.5°F (37.7 – 39.1°C). As death draws closer, your cat’s body temperature will drop. You may notice the ears and the paw pads feel cooler to the touch. The temperature may drop below 100°C (37.7°F).


Most cats in the final hours or days of life will move about very little, if they do try to move around, they are usually very weak, particularly in the hind legs.

Keep your cat’s food bowls and litter trays close to where he sleeps so he doesn’t have far to go.


As the organs begin to fail, toxins can build up in the cat’s body which will cause an odour from the body as well as the breath.

Changes in appearance

As your cat’s health deteriorates,  their physical appearance can also change. While not necessarily a sign of imminent death, it is a clue that your cat’s health has declined. The most obvious changes are dramatic weight loss and an unkempt appearance as your cat spends less time grooming.

Do cats purr before they are about to die?

I have not personally experienced a cat do this, but we know that cats can and do purr when they are in pain, so it is quite possible a cat could purr when they are dying.

Behavioral signs your cat is dying:


We have already covered this above, some cats will hide, others can become quite clingy and want to be with their human or animal companion.

Loss of interest in everything/social withdrawal

This happened to all of my cats who have been in their final day or two of life, who completely withdrew from their feline and human companions. They no longer have interest in their surroundings (or food) and spend their whole day sleeping, often restlessly. Usual behaviours such as greeting you at the door, asking you for food on a morning, watching birds in the garden have all stopped.

I have heard other people say that their cat became more clingy in the lead up to death. It is up to us to let our cat decide what they want. If they seem to prefer to be alone, we must respect that, even if we want to offer them comfort. It should be their choice how they spend their final hours. If they want companionship then we must give them that. Let your cat guide you.

Sleeping more

This is another very common behaviour in a dying cat which goes hand in hand with the above (loss of interest). Your cat will spend his final day(s) sleeping as much as he can. Even if he is awake, he will usually not move very far from his sleeping spot. Some terminal cats can be restless due to pain and discomfort.

Changes in cognitive function

Some cats may become confused and disoriented in their final days or hours. This is due to a build-up of toxins in the body which impair normal brain function. Seizures can also develop, particularly if the liver or kidneys are failing.

Palliative care:

As your cat reaches the terminal stage of a disease you will need to give him extra love, care, and attention. Treatment depends on the condition, many cats remain somewhat independent right up until the end. But the pet owner must make allowances where possible.

The goal of palliative care is to provide end of life care and comfort for the cat. Schedule an appointment with your veterinarian to discuss an end of life plan, at which time you can discuss how to manage your cat’s symptoms such as pain and hydration. Cats with advanced kidney disease are chronically dehydrated, and it can be a great help if the caregiver is able to administer subcutaneous fluids to help.

Pain relief:

Cats are extremely good at hiding pain, which makes it hard for their human caregiver to determine how much the cat is suffering. Many end of life diseases can be painful and your veterinarian will be able to prescribe medication to ease pain and discomfort.

Cats can’t tell their caregiver they are in pain. Subtle signs of pain include hiding, loss of appetite, drooling, neglecting to groom, sitting hunched over, restlessness, and loss of interest in surroundings.

Only give painkillers which have been prescribed by your veterinarian, cats aren’t small humans are unable to metabolise many common painkillers.

Make adaptations:

Place the litter trays and food bowls in an easy to access area close to the cat. It is not helpful for the terminal cat to climb a flight of stairs to reach the litter tray or food bowls. Raise food and water bowls so that your cat doesn’t have to bend over. Senior cats and cats in pain can find it difficult stepping into a litter tray, it can help to provide one with low sides.

Hand feed your cat:

In late-stage disease, cats can lose their appetite. Try to offer your cat small amounts of food, at this stage, hand feeding will be necessary. BBQ chicken slightly warmed up or some canned tuna may entice your cat to eat but at the very end, even this will often be refused.

Maintain warmth:

Very sick cats, especially senior cats are often not as good at maintaining body temperature. Make sure your cat has a warm and comfortable place to rest. The area should be easy to clean as very sick animals often have elimination problems.


Give your cat the option of where to sleep. He may prefer to sleep in the lounge room close to his human companions or he may prefer to sleep in a quiet spot elsewhere in the house. Let your cat be the guide. Now is not the time to be fussy about where your cat sleeps, not in his final days or weeks.

Maintain routine:

Keep your cat’s home life as simple and familiar as possible. Avoid any major changes. Keep visitors to a minimum.

Groom and clean your cat:

It may be necessary for the caregiver to help groom and keep your cat clean, especially cats who are in pain. Clean your cat if he has soiled himself and change his bedding.

How to comfort a dying cat:

Meet your cat’s basic needs such as hydration, nutrition, pain management, warmth and comfort. If these basic needs cannot be met, it is time to speak to your veterinarian about euthanasia. Ending a cat’s suffering by euthanasia is far kinder than letting nature take its course and waiting for the cat to die naturally.

Ensure the cat is in a comfortable place, and meet his emotional needs.

Some cats prefer relative isolation when they are dying, which means they choose to hide in a quiet spot. Where practical, respect that. Other cats want the comfort of their human or pet family, and that is okay too. Follow your cat’s lead.

  • A dying cat needs quiet and calm. Keep household noise to a minimum and if practical move the cat to a quieter part of the house away from the everyday hustle and bustle such as their favourite human’s bedroom. 
  • Stay with him as he dies, your presence will calm and sooth him.
  • Talk quietly and calmly to the cat.
  • Dim the lights, and turn televisions or radios down.
  • If the cat has a canine or feline companion, allow them to be with the cat, if that is what the dying cat wants, unless the cat has a highly infectious disease.
  • An immobile cat can develop pressure sores, ensure they have a cosy and well cushioned bed to rest in.
  • Keep fresh water available and close to the cat’s bed. Offer food on your finger.
  • If a euthanasia has been scheduled at the veterinary surgery, bring along the cat’s favourite blankets. Where possible, book the first or last appointment when it will be quieter. Stay with the cat before and during the process. Talk calmly, quietly and gently stroke him. Tell him you love him.

When is the right time to have my cat euthanised?

It is such a hard and gut-wrenching decision to make. Cats can’t tell us how they are feeling, we can only go on how they look and behave. The best thing you can do for your cat as he nears death is to offer him a peaceful exit.

A common theme among the comments is guilt over waiting too long. None of us have a crystal ball and our cats can’t tell us when they’ve had enough. We have to make the best decision we can, but with the added complication of wanting to fight for our cats, clinging to hope and not wanting to let go, it becomes a very complex and difficult decision. Two weeks prior to the euthanasia of my cat Eliot,  the veterinarian said her time wasn’t up yet (note: I don’t blame the veterinarian for this), but in hindsight I think it would have been better to let her go then than wait those extra two weeks until she truly was at the end and was was uncomfortable. I believe that a  week too early is better than a day too late. Do I feel bad about it? Yes, but I can’t turn back the clock. With cats who have followed in Eliot’s footsteps, I’ve been much quicker to make a decision, it’s hard, but I’d rather let them too a little too early than too late. One question I ask myself is ‘am I keeping them alive for me, or for them’? It can help to give clarity during such a difficult and emotional time when we are dealing with denial, bargaining, grief, fear and uncertainty.

Dr. Alice Villalobos, a veterinary oncologist created a quality of life scale which can help caregivers and veterinarians determine when the cat’s quality of life is such that euthanasia must be considered.


If possible, schedule the appointment ahead of time so that the euthanasia can be performed during a quiet period. Either at the beginning or the end of the day is best. Some veterinarians offer the option to come to your home and euthanise. I recommend this if it is possible.

Many veterinarians will recommend sedation prior to euthanasia, which helps to relax the cat, here is a compelling argument for sedation written from a veterinarian’s perspective. I also highly recommend another great article ‘Five Things I Wish You Knew Before‘, written by a veterinary technician, who has made a list of five things she would like pet owners to know prior to/during a euthanasia. If you can, please try to read it before you say goodbye.

Footnote (7th March 2017):


We lost our beautiful Singapura cat, Levi, on the weekend. It is the first time I’ve been strong enough to be there for the euthanasia. We owed it to him to all be there with him, he had given our family so much joy and happiness. We stroked him, we talked to him and we kissed him.

Levi was already hospitalised, he had gone downhill very quickly. We were able to spend 30 minutes alone with him saying goodbye.

It was the most painful experience of my life, but I am so glad I was there for him.  Hug your cats, love your cats, and if you feel strong enough, be with them at the end. It is sad, it is painful, but it is comforting to know that he died surrounded by his family who loved him so much.

April 2017:

Tonkinese cats
Norman and Calvin

We decided not to rush into getting another cat after Levi’s passing. I told the children that we would know when the time was right. A few weeks after we lost Levi, two Tonkinese cats were in need of a home having been surrendered at a local shelter. We knew the time was right and adopted them the following day. It was the first time our family had smiled since we lost Levi. Both cats have a completely different personality to Levi, Calvin is a quiet and shy cat who loves my daughter, Norman, well he’s just Norman, an independent boy who lives by his own rules. We still love and miss Levi, but the two boys helped to heal our broken hearts.

The loss of a pet is devastating, I still cry when I think about Levi. But, we had 11 wonderful years with him and I don’t want his death to overshadow his life. Remember the good times you shared.

I have enabled comments on this article, I cannot give medical advice but if you ever want to talk about your cats, or how you are feeling, please feel free to comment. Sometimes it may take me a few days to respond, but I will always try to get back to you.

Update 24th April 2018.

I have created a gallery of cats who have passed on. Please email me if you would like to submit a photo of your cat in our memorial gallery.

Also see our article on cat loss and grief.



  1. I have a indoor cat I adopted 4 years ago. She had become very thin. Huge lump on side of her face. Now today open big sore. Today she is hiding but eating fine. I have a vet coming tomorrow. Any suggestions?

    • Hi Laura,
      I’m sorry to hear about your cat. I’m glad she is still eating. It could be an abscess or a cuterebra, but really impossible to know without a diagnosis from a veterinarian. Good luck with the vet, let me know how you go.

    • My cat is very ill, he is an indoor and an outdoor cat. She has been urinating uncontrollable and refuses to eat or drink. He’s only three tears old but 4 in June of 2018. He has been constantly sleeping and refuses to move. There are many wounds on his sides. I believe he got in a cat fight. Earlier today I found him laying on the ground with him throwing up on him self. At the moment we don’t have enough money to put him down but I believe it’s the most humane thing to do. Suggestions?

      • Has your kitty been tested for Feline Leukemia and Immunodeficiency Virus? My cat is currently dying from leukemia which is transmitted easily, especially in outdoor cats 🙁 I can’t imagine what else could be making him so ill, I’d have your cat tested

        • My cat is also dying from feline leukemia and she developed lymphoma. She’s only 2, 3 in August. I’m so distraught

      • I hope your cat has received help by now. Many vets will euthanize knowing they will receive no or delayed payment, not wanting the pet to suffer. I always stop for animals that have been struck by cars. I explain to the vet what has happened, and that I can’t pay the bill, but that I can foster the injured pet until the owner is found. No vet has turned me down. Please ask a vet, or several, for help. Check back here, maybe we can think of something.

      • Have you had his wounds looked at by your vet? If he was in a fight, the germs from another cat could have caused abscesses. They would smell. Very treatable. I recommend bringing him to your vet to make sure a bought of antibiotics may cure him

  2. Hi I have a senior cat called booster who is ill atm he cant walk on his back legs properly and hes been like that for 6 years now, took him to the vets before and they told me he had Arthritis in his back legs and nearly prescribed me something my cat did not need as he was diagnosed with nerve damage which has affected his back legs, Booster is my baby and i watched him grow like he did me he is 18 years old only yesterday i saw he didnt eat much when he loves his food and is quite a greedy cat but was wondering if you could tell me if you think my cats on his last legs as im very very concerned now 🙁 thanks

    • Hi Keshia, I’m sorry to hear about Booster. It’s impossible to say as nobody can assess a cat without seeing them. All I can recommend is that Booster see a veterinarian as a cat who is not eating is in danger of hepatic lipidosis.

      Good luck and please let us know how Booster goes. I hope he is feeling better soon.

  3. Hi, So I recently took in a 10 year old cat called Kerby about 2 months ago, but I think his previous owners may have lied about his age as he seems much older.

    In the past few weeks Kerby has been sleeping a lot more and barely moving about. At first I thought it was because he was staying up all night, but now I have to wake him up to tell him its dinner time-and Kerby LOVES his food. He is a pig when it comes to it.- or check if he is still breathing. Kerby doesn’t even get upset at my dogs anymore when they go near him to lick his face or when our other cats try to steal his food. I think Kerby is slowly passing away as he no longer takes care of himself at all and I now brush his furr regularly. He used to hate being brushed.

    I was wondering if you could give me advice on this. Kerby is not in any physical pain and I have been told I can still put him down if I wish to. I don’t know if I should let him live out his rest of his days with barely any energy at all or put him down so he can go to a better place. I want the best for Kerby and I don’t want him to suffer in anyway.

    • Hi Holly,

      I’m so sorry to hear about Kirby. I would suggest taking him to the veterinarian and asking for a check up as well as baseline tests to start with, such as complete blood count, urinalysis and biochemical profile which may give them an indication of how he’s travelling health wise, and then take it from there. Any change such as loss of appetite, lethargy, even behavioural changes warrant further investigation.

      Good luck.

  4. I’m reading the last part of this article crying my eyes out. My beautiful 18 year old girl has come to the end of her life and we are planning to say goodbye this week. I imagine it to be one of the hardest things we have done.
    I’m glad to have read this to know that it’s the right time. Thank you.

    • Hi Natasha,

      Thank you for your post. I am so sorry you are going through this right now. It is such a hard thing to do, to say goodbye to a family member who has been with us for such a long time.

      I wish you all the best, give your girl a gentle hug from me and make the most of your days. She knows you love her. xxx

    • I really feel for you, we said a very peaceful goodbye to our gorgeous 18 year old boy last Tuesday – he went downhill so quickly and it was the kindest, and hardest thing to do ❤️💔

    • Right now my husbands 15 year old cat is laying next to me. Quietly slipping away. It happened quickly. Were waiting for our daughter to come home from school before we go to the vet. Shes only 6 but would be devastated if she came home to find him gone. I’ve been there at the very end for other pets and it’s the hardest thing to endure. But this is our responsibility as pet owners. We gave them great lives. And so much love.

      • I’m sorry to hear about your husband’s cat, Colleen. I agree with you about your daughter. When I was ten our Siamese cat was put to sleep. I knew he was sick, I knew he was going to the vet. So walking home from school I asked mum how he’d gone and she said she’d tell me at home. I pushed until she told me he’d been put to sleep. They knew it was going to happen, but had kept it from me to protect me. I don’t blame them for what they did, they thought it was the right thing to do, but I felt robbed of the chance to say goodbye to him.

  5. Hi, we have had Hopkins for almost 19 years. He has been suffering of chronic Kidney disease for the last 3 years. Now he is close to the end. Very weak, little appetite , weight loss, he can hardly use his hind legs, he feels dizzy, etc. Vet says it is time. He still eats a little and on Tuesday my wife and I have to leave out of town for work. Two choices; euthanasia tomorrow, or to be left with our lively aupair who is willing to come twice a day and my wife’s parents from Friday if he is still here. What would you do?

    • Hi Dimitri, I honestly couldn’t answer that without seeing the cat. We had one cat who in hindsight probably kept alive a little longer than we should and if I had my time again, I would rather let her go a week too early than a week too late.

      If your veterinarian suggests it’s time, maybe it is. I have found with my own veterinarians, they’ve let us ultimately decide, and we opted for sooner rather than later because in every case, the cat was terminal and it was the kindest thing to do.

  6. Hi, for the pass few days my cat who will be 18 next month has been possibly showing signs of dying. Fuzzy my sweet girl has loss of appetite and is sleeping in the closet. My heart is so heavy but it’s time for me to schedule an appointment to have a thorough check up and make a decision on what’s best for Fuzzy. Thanks for all the information and guidance.

    • Hi Natalie,

      I’m so sorry to hear about Fuzzy. It’s such a painful time preparing to say goodbye. Give her gentle hugs, she knows you’re there.

      As hard as it is right now, when she is gone, remember the 18 amazing years you had with her. Every time I think of cats who I have lost, I feel a pang of sadness, it’s impossible not to, but also remember how much happiness we had too.

      Take care of yourself too.

  7. Hi-
    Franklin is only 6 years old and has recently got 2 teeth removed. He had a resorption lesion and had trouble eating and drinking for 2 weeks previous to the tooth removal. Now it’s been a week and still no eating or drinking. He finally eat a bit of tuna yesterday but now nothing again. He is showing all signs and symptoms of a dying cat…we took him back to the vet and they gave him fluids and a prescription to take home for pain and to spark his appetite. I don’t know what to do any more. My wife and I are so worried and frustrated..hes not been himself and has lost about 5 pounds. He doesn’t seem to have an interest in anything any more…any suggestions?

    • Hi Lee,

      Apologies for the late response. I’m sorry to hear about Franklin. If he’s in pain, he won’t want to eat, hopefully the pain medication and appetite stimulants will start to kick in soon. I’d certainly give it a day to see if the medications kick in and if they don’t, I’d speak to the veterinarian again. If he’s not eating, they might want to hospitalise him and give him a feeding tube.

      At six, he’s still a young cat, I would hope that he has many more years in him.

    • This actually just happened to my cat who is 11. Her labs and everything before her dental extraction were perfect. Went back and they found a lump in her tummy. And I’m waiting to hear back about the needle biopsy. My poor baby has lost 3 lbs in like 3 weeks… She’s literally skin and bones. I feel so terrible that she’s going through this. Im just praying she can make it until they determine what the mass is.

  8. Thank goodness for this site today. Today we are mourning my sister who took her life two years ago. Two hours ago, her cat , Priscilla, started to howl. She is 18 . I’m afraid to move her.. she has fouled herself and has curled up under my bed.. refusing all except my voice.. I want her to be in peace..

  9. I have a kitten about 2 years old. He is now acting very strange and I had just got him to eat with his other siblings. He is very weak and falls almost every step he takes. I was just thinking he was just hungry or tired but I don’t really know. Hopefully he will make it until this weekend or at least till tomorrow. Wish him luck.

  10. I have a 12+ year old tortoiseshell named Pua. I just noticed last night she was having difficulty jumping up onto the couch. Her breathing seemed a little labored and she was lethargic. I’ve been giving her water with a syringe all through the day today. She hasn’t eaten today, her paws are cool and then warm up, been keeping a blanket on her. She does have energy to do or go where /when she wants but tires easily. She’s more alert today than last night. I’m praying she’ll hang in for a vet appointment tomorrow. It’s sad, even though all total I have 7 cats, all ferals, they’re your family. My guess she’s has heart, kidney or an infection of sorts? Hoping for the best but it’s worrisome and emotionally exhausting when one isn’t feeling well. The suddenness was also shovking. 2 days ago, she was fine.

  11. This is a very good article. We have many rescued pets (up until awhile ago we had 3 dogs and 23 cats). We have lost 5 in the past few months. Most were elderly, some had cancer or kidney disease. We have 3 others who are seriously ill. Our white shepherd (14) is losing the use of her back legs and our one cat (15) has possible lymphoma. It is never easy to lose them, but you know it is inevitable. You never imagine when you take on so many that a lot will age at the same rate, thus dying around the same time. They have given us so much love and companionship, more than was ever imaginable. It’s good to see others caring as much. Thank you for your writing – it is greatly appreciated.

    • Hi Debbie,

      Thank you for your comments I’m so sorry for the loss of your cats, you’re right, when they’re all the same age there will be more losses over a short period of time. It’s so hard, but I try not to let their death overshadow their life.

      Just this week I fostered a 6 year old tuxedo boy who was about to be put to sleep. The reason I took in this cat is he reminded me of my beloved tuxedo cat Eliot, who sadly died of cancer in 2003. It makes me happy that 14 years after her death, she has helped save the life of another cat.

  12. I just wrote a huge post. I’m in dire need of help. I answered the math problem at the end and it said I did it wrong and erased everything I wrote!! I know 11 + 4 = 15 so why did this happen?

  13. We’re at the point where it could be any day now. We don’t think she’s in pain so haven’t planned on having her put to sleep, but she doesn’t eat hardly anything, and when she does, she throws it up. I doubt she even weighs six pounds now, so skinny. She’ll be 15 in October, have had her since she was a six month old kitten.

  14. Trying again. I’m trying to assess where my boy Marley is at. He has congestive heart failure and is just 8 years old. We discovered it a couple of months ago when he was open mouthed breathing. He has asthma so I thought it was just that. In the hospital, they gave him a 50/50 chance of survival. We were overjoyed to bring him home and he’s been himself for the last couple of months except for a medication regimen that he hates. It’s very stressful for him. This past Monday, his labored breathing became more severe and we brought him to his regular vet. She drew fluids from his chest wall and she said they were mixed with blood which was a bad sign. She also said he was anemic. She said we should make a decision about having him go through another round at the hospital and maybe get another couple of months out of his good quality of life or not. But when we brought him home, he stopped eating, became weak and could barely walk without lying down. He’s refused his favorite snacks and won’t stay with me on my bed or in my arms. He’s staying mostly in my bedroom closet. But now just today he started eating again, some salmon a couple of hours ago and he just had some sardines. He’s drinking a lot because of the Lasix and he still uses the litter box. I thought he was going downhill quickly but he’s made this one turn. He is still not himself and giving him his meds scares me because he gets so stressed out. He’s not supposed to be agitated or exercise too much because his heart is weak. So I’m wondering what to expect next although both the hospital and my vet seem to shrug. This is apparently a very unpredictable condition. I’ve considered stopping his meds because he’s not currently struggling for breathe but now he’s started eating again. One of his meds makes him froth at the mouth terribly. I got a different flavor from the pharmacy that they said would be better but the frothing has gotten worse, maybe because he wasn’t eating? Anyway, do you have anything to offer about his current condition and his meds? I’m so confused. I’m not sure what to do but I do try to follow his lead.

    • Hi Rebecca,

      I’m sorry to hear about your boy. It would be inappropriate for me to comment on his medical situation, other than to recommend a second opinion for your boy if you feel your veterinarian isn’t as much help (to you and/your boy). I certainly wouldn’t take a cat off medication unless instructed to do so by the vet.

      Cats tend to froth when a medication is bitter. Have you tried a compounding pharmacy who can make the medication more palatable for your cat?

      • Yes, we had to abandon pills early on because he had so many meds and couldn’t take the pills. He got smart to pill pockets quickly. So we got all of his meds compounded into liquid fish flavor. He still hates the process. One particular med makes him froth terribly. So I called the pharmacy when I refilled the prescription and they made me a mixture with marshmallow in it which sounded like it would work. But he’s had the same reaction. Yesterday he started eating again. It’s very confusing. I thought he was close to the end. He still stays mostly in the closet and can’t groom himself. He looks sad and listless. He’s just eating quite a bit.

  15. Thank you for writing this. My sweet 6 year old was just diagnosed with Stage 4 kidney disease 2 weeks ago. Prior to that week I took her to the vet because she lost weight and seemed a bit lethargic she was a happy active cat. Follows me around and greets me at the door when I get home. I have decided to put her to sleep tomorrow as she is not doing well at all. She went to the vet and get an IV and seemed better to really bad in a short time. I have not stopped crying. I just rescued her 2 1/2 years ago and was hoping to have her for 10 more years. My heart has been torn out.

    • I’m so sorry, I can relate. It’s such a shock knowing their time is so close. My heart is with you at this awful time. They leave such a huge hole in our lives.

      I will be thinking of you tomorrow. Take care.

  16. Thank you for this page, which I found almost by accident. Our female cat, Libby, was harassed by a prowling tom – which has been around before – normally Libby has come inside. We have another cat, male, Oscar, who is totally oblivious to the needs of Libby and does chase her. Both our cats are desexed.
    Libby stayed out all Friday night up until Saturday evening, when she heard me nearby and came out of the stormwater drain where she had been hiding. I took her inside, but she didn’t like to be picked up (quite normal for her) and was giving off little growls. She didn’t want to stay inside, so rather than upset her further, we let her out again.
    Here we are on Sunday and she hasn’t eaten. I’ve talked to the general area of where she was, asking if she wants dinner, or play with her ball (she recognises “ball”), but we haven’t seen her today.
    Can trauma really upset cats so much that they don’t want to live any more? We feel we have let her down, but what else can we do?

    • I’m not aware that trauma can cause a cat to lose the will to live. It sounds to me like she is very very scared by the incident. Are you able to get her back inside?

      • My husband managed to talk to her this morning, but she still won’t come inside. I think it’s just a matter of taking it very slowly with her. Hopefully she’ll get so hungry she will at least come for food. She does seem a little calmer, so with any luck she’ll talk to us a little more and eventually stay home.

        • I will keep everything crossed for you. Please let me know how it goes. I hope she returns to you soon. Try leaving some food, water, a litter tray and a cat carrier or bed with a soft blanket for her to use.

          • Think we have our cat back – still some recovery to do, but has been eating, drinking and sleeping inside.
            Took her to the vet and a small abscess had been draining itself, so no operation for her. A couple of jabs – antibiotics and anti-inflammatory and keep our fingers crossed.
            What a relief!

        • Hi Margaret, sorry it won’t let me reply to your latest update. I just wanted to say I’m so happy you got her back. The abscess would have made her feel pretty lousy so now that is treated, hopefully she will be back to herself some time soon.

          I’m so glad to hear your update. Give her a gentle pat from me.

  17. Hi,

    This post has been very helpful, thank you for sharing!

    I have an 8-year-old lovely cat, Mikka, a cream shorthair tabby. On the beginning of March, she started feeling bad, throwing up every day, so we took her to the vet and after an ultrasound they found out that my baby had cancer, it started growing in her intestines and spreading aggressively in her stomach. My husband and I decided to keep her with us until she feels really sick. Now, she is very sick, she hasn’t eating by herself, so I have to feed her, and sleeps most of time in random places, she doesn’t like her bed anymore and she was only drinking water, but now she is drinking less. We took the decision to put her down, the painful and hardest decision we ever made, we think it is the best but to be honest, I feel devastated. My heart is broken but I know she will be better, I can’t continue seeing her like that anymore. Tomorrow is the day. We are going to be with her until her final moment.

    • Hi Patricia, I’m so sorry to hear about Mikka. I lost my first cat to cancer at nine years of age and totally understand what you are going through.

      I know it’s hard, but you are making the right decision. Gentle hugs to Mikka, and take care. I really am sorry for you.

  18. I am terribly sad as my kitty of 13 years has FIP and he is slowly dying (hasn’t eaten on his own in about 26 days). He refuses to even be fed by me for the last two days. My veterinarian refuses to give me anything for his pain or anxiety except bringing him in for a “long-acting” pain shot. He will not give me any at home pain or anxiety meds for him. I am so lost. I don’t know what to do and I do not want him to suffer.

    • Hi Steff,

      I’m so sorry to hear about your kitty. 26 days is a very long time. What does your veterinarian think? It’s always hard to know when the time is right.

  19. We just found out that our beloved Boomer has kidney failure and is going downhill very quickly. Our vet ok’d is feeding all of our cats y/d thyroid prescription diet and said it would be safe for all of our cats to eat along with our cat that has hyperthyroidism. She said it would be safe unless our other cats had any kidney disease without having them tested. I am now beside myself forbnot asking for them to test our other girls and now my Boomer is dying because of this food.

    • Hi Angela, I’m so sorry to hear about Boomer. What has the vet said about his condition? Have they indicated he can’t be helped? Is he receiving any treatment? I hope by stopping the food Boomer can recover.

      Has Boomer been tested for hyperthyroidism? The disease can help to protect cats with kidney disease. My hyperthyroid cat was found to have kidney disease, so we treated him with medications, sadly once the hyperthyroidism improved, his kidney disease hit hard.

  20. Thank you for this post. Our Bootsie is in the final stages of kidney failure. We were very lucky to have him this long. He was first diagnoised a year and a half ago. His kidneys were only working at 20% then, and was very close to death. With IV’s for dehydration and renal food he got better and has lived a full life for over a year. It was nice to read how to make him more comfortable until we can get him to the vet again.

  21. I rescued a kitten on Easter weekend from in a dogs mouth. He had no puncture wounds so I did not think anything of it. Last week on 4/18 he wouldn’t eat and started open mouth breathing. We rushed him to the animal hospital and was told he may not make it. We did everything that we could to keep him alive and get him better. Monday, 4/23, I got a call that he was going down hill and had a collapsed lung that would not reinflate and they would have to do surgery. The vet said since he was only 4 weeks old that there was a small chance of survival through the surgery. Instead of putting him through that pain and not coming out of it, I had to make a hard decision to put him down. This is the hardest decision I have had to make and I miss him dearly. I would like to email you a picture for a memorial if you can provide me your email. His name was Whiskers and he was very dear to us.

    • HI Chelsea, I’m so sorry to hear that Whiskers didn’t make it. What a wonderful person you are to have rescued him and fought so hard for him. The outcome was sad, but he died with somebody who loved and cared about him. Thank you so much for sharing.

  22. Thank you for a wonderfully compassionate and very informative post.
    I am sitting with my beloved Lucy, a rescue cat who has been with me for only 23 months.
    The symptoms I noticed 3 weeks ago really frightened me and sadly the Vet confirmed it was pancreatic cancer.
    So now all that can be done has been done. I’m staying with her to the end to give her all the love and comfort I can.
    She has given me so much joy and we have shared so many fun times.
    Thank you again for your blog and I wish everyone who has lost their beloved pet blessings and peace.


    • Hi Sasha, I am so sorry to hear about Lucy and her pancreatic cancer but am happy to hear that she has somebody who is so caring and loving to be with her at the end. Take good care of her, and yourself. It is such a difficult thing to watch a much loved family member live with cancer. Gentle hugs to both of you.

  23. Lost my 14 year old orange Maine coon “ALWEE” to kidney disease.I understood all what needed to be done from watching his responses.I knew when the time would be near.He meowed three times in pain in 3 minutes before he passed .He went into a cat like fit ,I knew this was it.i picked him up carried him from my bed to get some air on the patio.His heart was beating so fast & Strong as I was carrying him.We made it to the kitchen entrance as his heart stopped.i laid him on the kitchen floor and his lungs exhausted and orange smelly urine came puddling out.I knew to take pictures & Videos early on as soon as I knew! DO THAT! You will appreciate those afterwards! I did have talks with him as he always seemed more Human and no where near a Cat! He liked TV, Classical Music & Cold black coffee! Which the vet jump me about seven years early! Speeds up their heart rate! He had Attitude & Temper but most of the time very Loving ! He had seven beds of his own! I have a Huge Victorian home and he loved it! He never once bothered the Lace curtains but had his own chair that he would nudge you out of! Almost 14 years of joy! He was born may 2004 I got him 3rd week of August 2004 he died April 25th 2018 in my arms.

    • Hi Tim, I’m so sorry for your loss. What a lovely story, thank you for sharing. I love the name ALWEE, how unique.
      I completely agree with you about photos and video, I asked my daughter to take one last photo of me and Levi, which still haunts me to this day, but I’m so glad I have it too. It is very precious to me.

      ALWEE sounded like an amazing cat, you must miss him dearly 🙁

  24. Hello,
    I am going through a lot of emotions. My cat, Ifa, who is 9 years old,is very sick and she won’t live very long. We have opted for euthanasia as we can’t bare to her suffer.
    She is suffering from multiple complications and cancer. Her liver and pancreas is inflamed, her kidney is not functioning well and she is also diabetic. I’m not sure what to expect as today, 7 May 2018, is her euthanasia.
    I’m just wondering how you went through the emotions, Ifa has 3 children who doesn’t know that their mother is dying. Her children are all 7 years old. I just hope we, as a family, can go through this.

    Thank you for sharing your story and I hope I can be as strong as you when the time comes.

    • Hi Hafiz,
      I’m so sorry you are going through this, I know what a terrible time it is.

      Before we felt desperation and panic, and eventually accepted that the kindest thing to do was euthanasia. Afterwards we felt numb, empty and lost but in most cases, also relief knowing that our cat was no longer suffering. The hardest one was the last, Levi, as his death was so sudden (rushed to the vet on Thursday and put to sleep on Sunday).

      Some cats will grieve when a pet passes away, it really depends on the bond they had. When our Burmese cat died, his sister cried for a long time, she didn’t understand he was gone and would look for him. But with my other cats, the other cats seemed to be fine. They lived well together, but none were especially bonded.

      You will get through this, it will be hard, and you will feel sad, but over the coming weeks and months, it will be easier. I feel a pang of sadness for all the cats I’ve lost, it never leaves you, but it gets smaller.

      One artist drew her grief, and it really explains what people go through. I’ll try to link to it, I hope it works. If not, search for ‘grief in drawings, huffington post’.


  25. Hi Julia
    Thank you SO much for your ‘gentle hugs’,
    Just letting you know that Lucy is going to the Rainbow Bridge when the vet comes to our house about 6.45 pm.
    My heartache of losing Lucy must NOT stop me from saving her from any further suffering.
    I told her that my Bubbles is waiting to meet her and will take great care of her.

    ‘There is a new star shining in the sky tonight’. Anon.

  26. Hey there, thank you so much for the post. My precious cat is dying as he doesn’t want to eat nor drink for the last one month and a half. He can’t even walk properly and recently he is hiding under our wardrobe, doesn’t want to come out. I tried finger feed him but he doesn’t want to eat. He is just turned 2 years old. I guess I still want him to spend another 10 to 15 years with me.

    • Hi Athirah, I’m sorry to hear about your cat. Have you seen a veterinarian? Two is very young, hopefully it is something that is treatable.

  27. I write this with a heavy heart. My Spencer of 8 years has hip dysplasia and is scheduled for surgery on Friday morning. He’s not wanting to eat other than maybe with a little bit of tuna juice and I haven’t seen him drink anything since 1 p.m. and we are now 8 hours later. He’s tucked away in his safe spot in the closet and I have tried and tried for 3 hours to get him to come out and he won’t. I did manage to give him some water through a syringe and I gave him some pain medicine. I am hoping that he hangs on till Friday but it looks awful tired and his eyes look awful week and I just don’t know what to do.

    • Hi Melissa,

      Are you able to get Spencer to a veterinarian? If he’s in pain, he will be reluctant to eat, which can cause hepatic lipidisos. The veterinarian should be able to help by offering pain relief, appetite stimulants or a feeding tube.

  28. My 10 year old cat Molly had a bowel blockage at the end of March. The vet did surgery to fix it as had to remove a piece of the small intestine and a piece of lymph node. The biopsy reveled she has lymphoma and it was found in lymph node. I came across this page tonight while I was looking for signs that she is nearing the end. We have been on a roller coaster since the end of March. She has good days and bad days. Some days she plays some and climbed and jumps and others she goes off by herself. Her eating has not been the best. I don’t know if I need to let her continue this course or try medications and syringe feeding. This is truly heartbreaking. Sometimes I’m ok and other times (like now) I fall to pieces. I love her so much and we have such a special relationship. I feel blessed to have had her in my life but so cheated that I will lose her so young. Thank you for creating this page.

    • Hi Marcie, what a sad situation. I know what it’s like to watch a cat’s health decline. I think for me, I noticed in the last day or so they were unsettled, they would try to sleep but weren’t looking restful as a cat usually does. Those were the three cats whose health declined over weeks or months, I lost three cats quite suddenly too. But when they are home, and you are caring for them, it’s hard to know when the right time is.

      Let your cat guide you, and let your veterinarian guide you. If there’s one thing I would do differently with the first cat I lost, it would be to have let her go sooner. I think a week or two too early is better than a week or two too late.

      All the best, I know it’s a really hard time.

  29. I have had my cat Angel for over half my life. She has been with me through so many tough life events/changes. I had to take her to the vet today for continued vomiting and weight loss with the dr mentioning possible lymphoma but no definitive way to tell without surgery. As I sit here typing this she is at the vet getting IV fluids and anti nausea medicine. They told me she will have to be alone tonight cause no one works overnight there. It was the hardest decision to leave her there. And as a nurse I am all too familiar with death and dying. I have had such an easier time coping with this in my profession than I am in my personal life. I surprised myself with how hysterical I became today. I thought I was coping better with her getting older but to actually be at this point and not know exactly how much time we have left together…I am devastated. I can’t imagine life without her and I don’t know how to get through this. I will never forgive myself if anything happens to her at the vet tonight. I could not live with myself if she passed all alone. I just hope she makes it through tonight and we get a little more time together. I’m so lost right now

    • Hi Elizabeth, I am so sorry to hear about Angel, I totally understand how you are feeling. I hope the fluids help her to get better.

      When do you find out if it’s lymphoma? Fingers crossed it is something which can be treated.

      Hang in there, I will be thinking about Angel and wishing her a speedy recovery.

  30. this was very helpful thank you so much. I have a domestic shorthair 9 month old baby girl I adopted her about 3 months ago from petsmart. She’s a healthy spoiled little girl but since yesterday morning she’s been so clumsy and doesn’t really do anything usually she likes to climb tables and knock down stuff also she loves to jump on top of our fridge and chill up there but she somehow can’t manage to get up there at the moment. She is still eating and doing her duties in her litter box. Her paws aren’t cold but her ears kinda are… My parents think she has a cold because she has been sneezing I don’t know what to do all vets are closed at the moment and i’m scared my sweet girl won’t make it till tomorrow morning😰 thoughts?

    • Hi Yomira,

      Sorry for the late reply. That is a worry indeed. I’ve seen cats with a cold, but they’ve never been wobbly, more symptoms similar to a human cold, with lots of nasal discharge, and generally feeling off.

      I honestly couldn’t guess what it might be. Have you been able to take her to the veterinarian? I hope it is something they can easily treat.

  31. This was a great read. My buddy Ebenezer is 16 and his best friend Thor is 15. Thor is huge and doing well, but Ebenezer is in fair health. We started him on thyroid medication which seemed to help at first, but he is on the decline again. He is manic about food yet only skin and bones. His breathing seems labored and sleeps with his eyes open so I’m always checking on him. I will continue to evaluate his quality of life and plan to be there when the time comes. After all the joy he’s brought me, I owe it to him. I have never experienced to loss of a pet so i know it will be hard. Thank you again.

  32. My 9 year old cat just recently passed away. Acute kidney failire. She did exactly what this article said she would do.. hanging out by the water bowl,but too sick to drink, hiding under the couch in my living room.. And she meowed pretty heartbreakingly for about 20 seconds, so my mom picked her up. She held her, and I put my hand on her back an told her it was alright. Once she knew it was alright, she took her last breath. This is such a heartbreaking thing to have happen to your cat..

    • Hi Elizabeth, I am so sorry to hear about your cat. It is a terrible and traumatic thing to witness. I’m so glad she was comforted by you in her final moments though. That must have been very reassuring being surrounded by your love.

      Take care of yourself.

  33. Hi , thank you for writing this article . I am typing this message completely and utterly heartbroken . Last night , my beloved , best friend “ Jessie “ was put to sleep. She was 18 years old and had been diagnosed on my way back Thursday ( 2 days ago ) with Acute Kidney Failure . Long story but ….. my Vet Recommemded 48 hours of IV fluids and 2 days admittance . To not waffle on too much , it turns out that My wonderful Jessie has Been completely let down by the Vet ( the people I am paying to take care of her ) they left her in her small carrier for 10 hours unable to move / eat / toilet . She was given large amounts of painkillers and drugged up to the eyes , when I went to collect her and
    Take her to the emergency veterinarian Hospital last night ( as I had done the night before ) to continue with her IV care overnight . I asked the Vet at the Hospital to examine her as she has not eaten and looked so so poorly , she couldn’t stand and smelt quite toxic, I was devastated . The Vet told me that she has a large heart murmur and Should never have been given IV fluids in the first place . This was causing Jessie to basically drown to death as her heart and kidneys could not take / cope with the fluid . I was advised that they would carry out a further blood test at 10 pm and call me with her results I left Jessie for the evening at 8 pm and cried all the way home . At 9 pm they called to say Jessie’s breathing was laboured and I needed
    To get back to the Hospital . When I arrived Jessie was laying in an oxygen Tent and
    Looked extremely sad and frightened . The Vet confirmed that there was nothing more he could do for Jessie and if she wasn’t put to sleep there and then She would die within hours a lot
    More unpleasantly and in pain , Jesssie died in my Arms at 9.22 pm . This is the worst day of my life and I am in physical pain over it . Jessie only went to the Vet 2 days earlier with a bag leg , she had now passed away and I’ve lost
    My beautiful girl . What makes this so
    Much more tragic is knowing her death may have been prevented and Jessie’s last 48 hours were terrible and she was treated so cruelly . My heart is breaking , I whispered to her when she was in my arms to “ dream big “ sleep tight Jessie x 😓

    • Hi Vanessa, I’m so sorry to hear about Jessie, what an awful situation 🙁 It is heart breaking to lose a cat, I understand when you say it is physically painful.

      Take good care of yourself at this difficult time.

  34. My cat, Frankie, has suddenly changed. He acts like he is peeing on the furniture but does not. He is now growling and hissing at us when we get him. He is eating fine, drinking fine but my husband thinks he is dying. I’m heartbroken. Frankie has been with us for 9 years.

  35. Today we discovered that our 4 year old Bengal girl, Cass (Cassiopeia) has developed a significant heart murmur. I’m completely devastated, and even though she is still doing well for now, I’m so scared of what’s to come. I would really struggle to cope with losing her. But, your article was lovely and, in a way, comforting, so thank you. She’s curled up next to me and sleeping happily and it’s a real blessing. Hopefully we will get to have many more nights like this before her time comes.

    • Hi Gremoli, I’m so sorry to hear about Cass’s diagnosis, I had a Bengal many years ago who also had a heart problem too.

      What did the veterinarian say her prognosis was?

      Losing a pet is devastating, I hope she stays happy and well for me.

      Thank you for sharing your story, gentle hugs to Cass from Australia.

      • Thanks Julia, you are lovely. The vet said that ultimately it would result in heart failure, but it could be months or we could get lucky and it could be years. Here’s hoping for the latter. Next step is to get a scan to see exactly what we’re dealing with and then get her on medication to try and manage it as best we can.

        We have three bengals, and they’re the absolute heart and soul of our family. Best wishes from our family to yours.

  36. Hi all
    I rehomed a mother and daughter cat last year but only recently the mum doesnt seem to be her usual self e.g i was downstairs making something to eat which took me 15 minutes and in that time the mum went in and out of the cat tray 10-15 times but hardley went to the toilet, its taking her 3 days to eat one lot of her food and she seems to just be laying in one spot all day could she possibly be coming to the end?

    • Hi Chelsea, I’m sorry for the late reply. That could possibly be a urinary tract infection, urinary blockage or constipation. A urinary blockage is life-threatening. Can you get her to a veterinarian? All three of the above are treatable. If she can’t go to the toilet, she will feel pretty lousy.

  37. Thank you for this. I am sitting with Hannah, who was an adult when I adopted her in September of 2000. She has known every day of her life since then that she is the most beautiful and most beloved of all cats. She has been failing this past week: loss of appetite, loss of vision, loss of mobility, now weakness in her hind legs. I have been giving her little sips of chicken broth, lots of water, and thin pieces of venison. I have been petting and brushing her, and she purrs every now and then. She does not seem to be uncomfortable or in pain, just increasingly weak. I hope she passes gently, in the spot on the sofa we have fought over for the past 12 years. Today, finally, I let her win 🙂

    • Hi Linda, I’m sorry for the late reply.

      Wow, eighteen years is amazing. Congratulations to you and Hanna. I’m so sorry to hear she’s not doing well.

      Has she seen a veterinarian? They will be able to offer some suggestions and hopefully make her more comfortable.

  38. My baby girl Sophie 10 years old had slowly stopped being her usual bouncy little self and I knew something was wrong when she stopped eating much because she loves her food as soon as she hears the fridge open she would come racing inside but she just wanted to be outside and I noticed she was incontinent but wasn’t as worried about that as she has a history of IBD. But then she couldn’t hold her bladder either. She wasn’t dehydrated but her gums were pale which reminded me that she had caught and ate a few mice a few days earlier and it suddenly popped into my head that she may be actually suffering from second hand poisoning by eating rodents that had eaten rat bait. I took her too the vet 3 days ago and she was still eating a little and drinking a little vet thought it was probably diabetes and maybe her thyroid. I have both diabetes and problems with my thyroid so I knew that was something I understood so I wanted to make sure it was that and told the vet about my concerns about the poisoning. So I got them to run a full blood count and check for everything they could. They said the results would be back friday but they called me early today. She is suffering from poisoning and as her health has not always been the best it has hit her hard and her Liver and Pancreas are failing she has stopped eating completely now. They wanted to admit her to hospital but they were very honest with me about the chances of her surviving and her quality of life were not good. So I decided to not proceed with that after talking with my mum. Sophie would be so stressed if she had to be away from me and her home and would be utterly miserable and it would cruel to put her through that so the vet is coming in 10 hours to euthanize her. She is laying next me holding my hand around her paw knowing I love he. Its breaking my heart I am glad I am getting the chance to spend the last 24 hours with her. Every now again I look at her and she is so still that my heart skips a beat. I don’t want to leave the room because I don’t want her dying on her own. We have always had a very strong bond how am I gong to live without her? I know I will but the pain is so hard to bare again.

    • Hi Stephanie,

      I’m sorry for the late reply and to hear about Sophie. I think you made the right decision, which is always a hard one for a pet parent to make. As I have said in the article, a week too early is better than a day too late.

      It is so painful to lose a pet, I completely understand. You had ten wonderful years with Sophie, and she was lucky to have you, who cared so much about her. It does get easier, it takes time. Gentle hugs.

  39. Not to be morbid, but one of my favorite poems is For a Dead Kitten.I had it inscribed on Pumpkins marker, the only upside to his passing being he lived to a ripe old age of 22 and was healthy almost to the end. Just so much you can ask of our fur babies.Anyway, it seemed appropriate.

    Put the rubber mouse away
    Pick the spool up from the floor
    What was velvet shod and gay
    Will not want them any more.
    What was warm, is now so cold
    Whence dissolved that little breath?
    How could this small body hold
    So immense a thing as death?

  40. My girlfriend and myself just had to bury our cat Tennessee, she died last night, presumably from her cancer. We had a cancerous tumor removed from her abdomen about 8 months ago, and she had been fine ever since. Then all of a sudden her health suddenly declined again a couple days ago.

    We thought we’d defeated the cancer, and since she had had a couple upper respiratory infections before with similar symptoms, we took her to the vet and got some antibiotics, thinking everything would be okay.

    Now that she’s out in the garden, with a gardenia shrub over her, I can’t help but feel stupid, and like I failed her because I didn’t want to believe that the cancer was back. She could have passed quietly, but instead she was afraid and in pain, and it was my fault. At least I was there with her, I held her until she stopped breathing.

    We miss her so much, and it’s only made worse by the fact that it felt like it came out of nowhere. I will be better, and I will never let another one of my babies suffer. I just wish I didn’t have to learn this lesson like this.

    If you’re reading this, please learn from our mistakes. If your pet becomes ill, assume the worst every time since they can’t tell you what’s wrong.

    • Hi Vincent, I’m so sorry for your loss of Tennessee, please don’t beat yourself up about it. Cats are exceptional at hiding symptoms, we lost our cat Levi the same way. It was very sudden and a huge shock.

      Thank you for your reply, be gentle on yourself.

  41. Thanks for this very helpful post. My little kitty cat is dying of kidney disease and I’m devastated 🙁

    • Oh Susan, I am so sorry to hear about your kitty. I lost a cat to kidney disease a few years ago, it was hard to watch him. Take care and please give your lovely kitty a hug from me 🙂

  42. My beautiful and loving cat of eighteen years got sick and couldn’t make it to his litter box. I had him euthanised, but I think I waited too long. It is breaking my heart that I let him suffer!

    • HI David,

      I’m so sorry for your loss, hindsight is a wonderful thing isn’t it? At the time, it’s not black and white, and sometimes we don’t always make the best decision. I’ve been there with my beautiful cat Eliot, I feel we kept her alive for too long, but even the veterinarian said it wasn’t quite her time yet, but looking back, I genuinely feel we should have put her to sleep two weeks earlier (when the vet said it wasn’t her time), which is why I finished the article by saying a week or two too early is better than a day too late. But, when you’re in the thick of it, it’s not always that easy. Please don’t be hard on yourself, eighteen years is a wonderful age, you must have been doing something right.

  43. My moms friends had a pregnant cat that lived in their yard. She had given birth to 3 kittens they were so cute. They got older and they could run and play. I had my eye on this one kitten, he was so beautiful and so sweet, I knew he’d be mine. As the kittens for older they allowed us to watch them. (The mother cat was friendly and we had a special bond) my moms friends neighbor has a TNR job and so she decided to get the mother cat fixed. My friend and I (my moms friends daughter) waiter for the neighbor to her back. She came back, she was crying, I couldn’t see the cat. I asked, as I started to cry, she told me that the vet had found kitty leukemia in the cat and that she was in pain. The neighbor told the vet that the mother has kittens, they told her they most likely had it because the mother had it while nursing the kittens. My moms friend wouldn’t let the neighbor get the kittens tested, it was too late when I had found out. About 2 weeks later my mom woke me up in the morning with a surprise, it was the kitten I had my eye on. I was so happy and exited I almost cried. I took care of him every day, I named him Goose. If I had a bad day he’d make it better, he was my best friend. I remember he’d always climb up on my chest and look me in the eyes and he’d fall asleep, he’d purr so loud it was my favorite noise. I had, had him for almost a year when I found out his sister had died of kitty lukiema and a week and a half after that his brother died. My cat had lived another 3 months untill he died. The only reason for that was because I actually took care of him and lived him. One morning I woke up and I had breakfast (it was Saturday) I went and got my cats bowl and filled it up with food, I went to find him and I looked outside, I saw him. I thought he was sleeping. He was curled up next to the door. I said his name and he didn’t answer. I went to pet him and cried instantly. He was stiff and cold. I woke everyone up, but I didn’t care. I knew I probably woke the neighbors with my wailing. It didn’t seem like my parents were very upset, the first thing they did was grab a box. My dad shoved him in it and even bent his tail just to make him fit. I still hate him. I feel like my dad killed my cat, he always hated him, but then again the only logical answer is kitty leukemia. If I would’ve known ( I should’ve, I wish I did) that he was in pain, I would’ve taken him in. But he didn’t show signs of dying.

  44. My baby luna was diagnosed with dry fip 2 weeks ago, she must of got it when she was a kitten the vet said it laid dormant till now she just had her first birthday on the 23rd the vet said our other car would not catch it
    cause its a virus and the other cat would of shown signs by now if she was not immune and she also suggested it was to soon to put her down but now i’m not so sure she was right about that. over the past 2 weeks we (me and my partner) have seen her slowly get worse. She started out by lack of grooming and noticeably eating less. She then started only eating treats and real food (so we spoiled her with real meat cooked right and tuna) after a while even chicken would get overlooked I figured her throat must feel dry so I found some kitty broth meals (pretty much just veggies vitamins and meat broth) and now thats basically all she will eat but even then its only some of it and maybe one treat. She has no desire for water anymore and only drinks when i bring her attention to it. I think tomorrow will be at the point where I will need to help squeeze some down with a eye dropper. She can not even support herself well at all to go to the bathroom or move around the house. I spent a good 6-7 hours with her today just taking her to different spots around the house to spend time and read and cuddle with her mostly outside. She is an inside cat but over the past 2 weeks we have been taking her out onto our porch and she loves everything about that. Today is the first day where she is no longer able to move freely around without getting dizzy or tipping. I am going to have the conversation about helping her pass into her next phase of experience. with my partner tonight. I do not think this world has anything left to give my precious soul luna but I kind of want someone else to tell me that it is time. Thank you for reading this and have a wonderful day.
    One love, Derek

  45. I’ve lost 2 cats to cars and one to undetermined causes( it might have been a car) and another that wasn’t even really my cat that I had to take to be euthanized.
    The first one was found by my parents in the alley around noon, but it seemed she had been hit sometime around 3 am. From what my parents told me she had peed on herself and maybe she was trying to get home. RIP Ikki.
    The other car I saw him get hit and I picked him up from the street. RIP Kyo.
    The third one my cousin found in our yard with blood on her mouth. She came back to die at home. RIP KIBA
    Then there was a start mom fed. He went MIA for a few moths and when he came back he had a bad case of scabies. I tried taking him to a humane society but nobody would take him so I decided to take him to the vet myself. They tested him and he was FIV positive. He went missing for a month after that, but when he came back he wasn’t eating or drinking and he’d begun sneezing blood too.
    As so in as the vet saw him he agreed it was his time to go. RIP Cabezon

  46. Thank you for this post. My FeLV positive kitty is actively dying and has begun to exhibit end stage signs. He already had an appointment scheduled this coming Tuesday, (earliest they could get us in)but he has deteriorated rapidly after declining food and now water, and I’m afraid of how he will do until then. I tried everything from making home made high protein food up to assist feeding, and I stopped that as it seemed it was stressing him more, which I did not want to do. It is a holiday weekend and we have a tropical storm heading for us so I’ve been trying to keep him as comfortable as possible. We’ve had him for only 4 years and the vet warned us after we rescued him that FeLV cats usually don’t have a long life span, but he has been an amazing cat, and my heart is breaking. I know this was long but thank you for letting me stress vent, this post has helped me feel somewhat better. We may lose our beautiful cat, but I also know that when the time is right we will want to adopt again in the future.

    • Hi Nicole,

      I’m so sorry to hear about your kitty. Did you manage to get him to eat? Have you tried warming up his food? That can sometimes work.

  47. I would greatly appreciate any advice. I have a 4 year old indoor only cat named Simba who has never had any medical issues before. Last Saturday he started throwing up several times. He pretty much stopped eating and drinking. On Wednesday we took him to the vet, even though we really didn’t have the extra money for it(I’m a divorced mom of 2 kids who has been out of work for almost 2 months due to injuries sustained in a car accident). The vet wanted to do X-rays for $290 and blood work for $310. I didn’t have that much money and I got turned down for that care credit loan. So the vet gave him a saline injection and medicine to make him stop throwing up ($230)land to keep an eye on his abdomen bc it seemed sore. But Simba is urinating do that’s a good sign. He said that should help buy me some time to figure out my finances. Simba did stop throwing up and he even looked a little better. But he still refuses to eat or drink. The vet said perhaps he ate something that has him backed up, or maybe it’s a haurball. So we started giving him hair ball digestive pills.

    I’m so terrified that my precious kitty is dying. His breath stinks, he won’t eat or drink, he’s lost weight and he’s very lethargic. I’m tearing myself up with guilt bc I can’t afford the vets help. Do you have any suggestions?

    • Hi Lisa,

      I’m so sorry to hear about Simba. I really don’t know what I can suggest, without diagnostics it’s impossible to say. Has he passed a stool during this time?

      • No, although tonight he seemed to be trying to pass a stool but nothing came out so I’m hopeful that the hairball pills are beginning to work. He had zero interest in food still. The only thing we’ve managed to get in him is some pedialyte and a tiny bit of spray cheese we put on his mouth for him to lick off

  48. Julia,
    I want to thank you for this article. I’ve been trying to decide if the time is right to take my cat for one last visit to the vet. She has oral cancer, and I just can’t see putting her through surgery when it will only result in a lower quality of life and not extend it any. The vet offered herbal medicines as well, but I doubt I’d be able to get it into her.

    She only has two of the signs you’ve mentioned. Drooling (like crazy!) and hiding. But she’s also lost almost half her body weight over the last 5 months, is only slightly less active and the mass is so large it’s covering her teeth and making her bleed when she bits down. She’s 10 though, so some of it is expected due to age. The smell from her mouth/drool is very unpleasant and she doesn’t always groom herself well. I assume because of the mass.

    I feel aweful not just because I have to make this decision, which in itself is extremely hard, but also because I may be considering doing it early just so I don’t have to watch her decline, which is a selfish reason to do anything like this.
    I know you understand when I say … I wish it was easier to know when to let go.

    • Hi Tara,

      I’m so sorry to hear about your cat. It’s a really hard decision. In hindsight, we feel we kept our cat Eliot alive for too long. Two weeks prior she had seen a veterinarian who said it wasn’t time for euthanasia yet, but looking back, we feel she should have been put to sleep then, not later, when she had declined further. That is why I finish the article the way I did, a week or two too early is better than late. But I advise you speak to your veterinarian and let them guide you too.

      It’s gutwrenching to have to do it, I truly feel for you and wish you all the best in making this very difficult decision. Take care.

  49. Hi

    I think my cat is dying. He is 19 years old. He was diagnosed with kidney disease a few years back. Also recently they found that his liver is a weird and large shape along with part of his intestine quite thick.
    Before the scan they only gave him a tablet to make him sleepy but it took him two days to recover. In fact since then he hardly eats or drinks, i have to hand feed him. He also sleeps a lot and doesn’t really engage.
    He does greet me sometimes and purrs when I stroke him.
    Recently, he got diagnosed with a eye ulcer too. Still healing.

    He is currently on treatment for a overacting thyroid, a tablet to stop vomiting and recently steroids as they believe he may have cancer.
    He always gets stressed when I take him out and I can tell he is fed up with the tablets.

    I’m taking him to the vet today, although it hurts I think I need to put him to sleep. The idea makes me cry but I think it’s the right thing to do. His name is Leo & he is a white Manx

      • Hi Julia.

        Unfortunately it was only for a while. I took Leo to the vet to be put to rest on Thursday.

        Told him I loved him while he was in my arms. The vet then gave the injection. Although it was difficult I wanted to be with him right until the end, as his dad it was also my duty.

        Leo (1999 – 2018). Hope to see you again. Blessed

  50. Update:

    Took my cat to the vet and have booked him in for tomorrow to be put to sleep. However, he was given this tablet to help with his appetite and he is a different cat! Much more awake and engaging and talkative!
    I’m gonna see how he goes as he seems much better. I’ll still take him tomorrow for a check up but he might still have some life in him yet! 🐱

  51. Thank you for writing this very helpful and compassionate story and giving me a place to talk about how I’m feeling watching my beautiful, best friend as she transitions her journey onward. I have experienced the loss of many of my beautiful cat children, but my current kitty, Madeline, is especially heart felt. I never had human children and Madeline is like the baby I never had to privilege of having. It’s like she knows my happiness and sadness and all emotions in between. I’m keeping her as comfortable as possibly, but know that I must be strong for her now as she is going through these difficult days. She is down to 3.5 pounds, we give her subQ fluids, she eats, but doesn’t keep the food in, has chewed fur off most paws. She still cuddles and purrs and has the sweetest disposition regardless of her circumstances. I try to keep my focus on enjoying each moment I have with her, although sometimes I just cry.
    We have been under the loving compassionate care of Dr. Mary at All Creatures Animal Hospital, but of course, Madeline is not fond of getting in her carrier to go there. So we maximize those trips to reduce her discomfort.
    Thank you for letting me share! Madeline and I needed to know that there are so many others experiencing the same emotions.

    • Hi Debra, I’m so sorry to hear about Madeline, I completely understand when you say she is your baby. Sometimes a pet really does become your soulmate.

      Wishing Madeline and yourself all the best. So many of us here know what you’re going through, you’re not alone.

  52. So glad I came upon this article. Today we have a vet coming to the house to evaluate our sweetheart, Nickel. She is 21 years old, and has many of the symptoms you outline, except she has not stopped eating or drinking. She is skin and bones, and has gone downhill for the past month or so. I will let the vet tell us her true condition. But I don’t want to wait until she is in obvious distress. Your comment about being 2 weeks too early rings true. I will miss her terribly, but don’t want her to suffer one whit.

  53. I have a cat that lives near my porch and is wild and won’t come in.I have been feeding her for 16 years and she has now stopped eating.She has started looking real unkempt and I think her time is up.She will never let me take her to the vet.She still brings”presents” to me but has stopped all that in the last week and is now not eating or drinking.What do I do since I can’t take her to a vet?

    • Hi Dyan,

      I’m sorry to hear about the cat. Do you think you could trap her or would a trip to the veterinarian be too stressful?

      If you can’t get her treatment, I’d just try to keep her comfortable. Provide her with a warm box to sleep in and keep putting food out.

  54. So today the cat who grew up wirh me was put down. She was 19 and a half, and when though she lived with my dad I cared deeply about her. I went to check on her today and she was in bad shape. Thank you for the article, I was feeling guilty I might have ended things too soon. The hardest thing Ive done in my life so far. She purred the whole way through though, surrounded by love, being pet by 8 hands.

    • Hi Enna,

      I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your cat. 19 years is an amazing age, she was obviously very well looked after and loved by you and your dad.

      Please don’t feel guilty, you said yourself she was in a bad way. Honestly, a week or two too soon is better than a day too late.

  55. Puccikat was a stray and I adopted her 8years ago. She probabbly was about 2-4yrs old on adoption. For the past almost 3months she has been beathing heavily. It was a coincidental find when brought to the vet after a seizure attack (first time).chest x’rays showed cloudy lungs.
    Been on antibiotics, steriods, bromhexine, theophyline with little improvement at first but now its getting worst. Just started on freusemide as crackles heard.
    Only a 25% improvemt noticed in her alertness. Aftee exertions like using the littre box, using her scratching pole she breathes with her mouth open. Collapses on the floor from tiredness with the heavy breathing and after a period of time no open mouth breathing but still heavy.
    Two days ago from a afteenoon vet trip back, she vomitted and began breathing extremely heavy with her mouth open and little sound at the end of each inhaled breath. I felt so helpless. She was ‘down and sleeping’ the whole day.
    Vet said high possibility she has fibrosis in her lungs and underying heart problem which explains slight improvment with fruesemide. Fibrosis cant be treated and its progressive.
    I dont want her to suffer yet she is still eating and trying her best to be active. When should I let her go?

    • Hi Alison,

      I’m sorry to hear about your cat, it’s a hard decision to make. Did you look at the quality of life chart linked in the article? Maybe that can be of help.

      I think you will know when it’s time, good luck and gentle hugs to your girl.

      • Hi Julia,

        Yes i did the chart. But its ‘very grey’. Got a score of 43. Hope I am doing it right.
        It seems much worst especially when the open mouth breathing happens more often now, even with just walking a short distance. Watching her being so restless when that hsppens and not sure to sit or lie down aches/pains in my heart.

  56. Hey. My cat stopped eating 2 days ago. Although he wasnt eating anything yet he vomitted after every 2,3 hour. We gave him antiemetics, he vomitted. The meds didnt effect him. The vet gave some antibiotics and they didnt work either. He died the next day. He was drooling and it had a foul smell. The very next day other cat had the same symptoms and he died too. We have lost 4 kittens due to this the last week. And now another one is sick today. What is going on with them ? Please help us understand.

  57. My cat is growling and meowing while frequently sleeping (The cat is a Korat). Everytime I take off the covers, she is angry. She keeps wanting to always run to my covers specifically. I can’t tell if she is cold since I put my hand over her forehead and ears which are really warm. Currently, my cat is sleeping. Also, she has a foul smell.
    Do you think there is anything wrong with her?

  58. My cat is about 3 months old. She’s an outside cat but we take care of her very well. Lately, she’s been getting very bad discharge and she’s been hacking and sneezing. The other day we came outside to feed her and she had two bald spots on each side of her “hole”. She’s been eating fine but not as much as she used to. She used to like being petted but is now became very feral and usually doesn’t like it when you touch her.

  59. My 4year old male cat Ely I’v had since kittenhood. He’s my baby boy. 10 days ago he had a little vomit & just didn’t seem right so I rushed him to ER. He had a fever of 102.7 & they just gave him some antibiotics & sent him home. He threw up 2hrs later so back we went. Gave him fluids sent him home. Since then he stopped eating & drinking. Been to the vet 3 more times. $1500 later all we know is blood panel shows he’s fighting some kind of infection & his spleen is enlarged. To further diagnose he needs an $1100 ultrasound, perhaps a biopsy. He’s on appetite stimulants nausea pain antibiotics & fluids 1x a day but still refuses to eat or drink. He lays by the water dish & just stares blankly. I am syringe feeding him which he is resistant to so Im not sure hes getting much. I’m devastated & am not ready to say goodbye. I am out of money to further test & not sure it would matter anyway. Thank you for your article and allowing others to share our grief. It’s so painful being so helpless & watching ones you love struggle.

    • Hi Beachbabi,

      I’m so sorry to hear about little Eli, those vet bills add up fast, I sympathise completely.

      I’m in the process of writing an article on nutritional support for sick animals (should be finished tonight or tomorrow), and am wondering why the veterinarian hasn’t suggested tube feeding Eli? Has this been discussed at all?

      I am really hoping Eli pulls through.

  60. Hi Julia,
    I’m really worried about my cat. I have had him for 13 years and I am scared he is dying. He stopped eating like normal so i gave him wet food to eat because he never turns that down. He sniffed it and went back to bed. He is a very social and easy going cat so it confused me that he has been sleeping in my bed and closet and not really going downstairs and sitting in the windowsill like he usually does. I talked to my mom about it and she thought i was being over dramatic, but his ears are colder, and his breathing is not as steady and seems struggled. I hate to bother you, but I am genuinely concerned for my cat. I am very worried reading this article and realizing my cat has a lot of problems.

    • Hi Nova,

      Are you able to get your cat to a veterinarian? It sounds like he needs some help. A loss of appetite can happen for a number of reasons and needs to be addressed. Good luck, please let me know how you go.

      PS: You are not being over-dramatic at all. Kudos to you for being aware.

  61. I lost my baby girl today. She had been treated successfully for GI lymphoma for three years and was in remission. Then this past December she had a tumor in her bladder removed, and after that the lymphoma returned. She wasted away to skin and bones even though she ate a ton of food. Then this morning, she woke me up at 4:30am getting up onto the bed next to me. I looked over and she didn’t seem to be able to move her hind legs because they were so weak. So I took her to the ER. On the way there, I knew it was probably the end. She wasn’t meowing in her carrier – like she always did, and was just resting her head in my hand. The vet said she was in organ failure. Her temperature and heart rate were low and in the few minutes we were there, she had a seizure – which I’m glad I did not witness. They brought her out and I held her when they gave her the medicine. I’m dreading coming home from work tonight because she won’t be there. I know she had a good life for 15 years, but it doesn’t make it less painful.

  62. Julia, I love the valuable information you’ve given on this website and the kind words you’ve written for pet parents around the world. I wish I would’ve found it sooner. Monday night, I had a vet put down my feline I’ve shared a life with for 21+ years. It was excruciatingly painful watching my baby agonize until the end. She was diagnosed with kidney failure 15 months ago and was declining steadily. But last month, she got an antibiotic shot and seemed to be making a comeback. It was baffling how mobile, happy, energetic and hungry she suddenly was again. Unfortunately, she resumed her symptomatic decline late last week. She stopped eating, drank very little and could barely control her hind legs in the 72 hours before she passed. She was found after work laying flat on the ground, almost paralyzed. She may have been that way for many hours. The speed and ferocity of the disease at the end caught me by surprise and has left me stunned and devastated. I know she has lived a long, pampered life. But I feel I failed her when she needed me most.

    • Hi John,

      Thank you for your kind words, especially at this terrible time for you. I am so sorry for your loss, 21 years is amazing. You obviously loved her very much.

      Kidney disease can progress very fast, I too have lost a cat to the disease and have seen how fast they can go downhill.

      Please don’t beat yourself up about it, you did the very best you could for your girl, it is not your fault, I know you are hurting right now, but try to remember the 21 amazing years you shared together. The end is really hard because it is so easy to feel guilt for letting them go too soon, or waiting too long, but we are all human, and we do the very best we can for our cats. Please remember that.

  63. My 14 year old Birman has had bad diarrhea for quite sometime now. His appetite has decreased and I’m sure he’s got arthritis as he is walking slower and slower. We’ve tried antibiotics, Cerenea, etc. His blood work came back just fine. My mom and I are wondering if it’s just his bodies way of shutting down. He’s been through a lot of stuff the past few years with moving to/from 4 different houses and a new state. That means a new vet. Like most of you, I’m not blaming the vet, current and especially not previous of 20+ years. I feel
    Like it’s time but it’s so hard to make that call. In looking at signs of dying, without disease, he is showing a lot of them. I guess I’ve got a very difficult decision to make soon. 😿😿 any advice is appreciated.

    • Hi Jenny, sorry for the delay in responding to you.

      That’s a really hard call, when you don’t have a diagnosis. I honestly don’t know what I would do. At 14, there is a good chance arthritis is there. Has the veterinarian run any tests to look for arthritis? What kind of tests have they run so far?

  64. Hi, My 8 year old male kitty, Mocha is having problems pooping which made him throw up all the time. He will only eat one type of food and refuses to eat anything else. He loves water, but he’s not drinking enough to pass it. So they had to manually extract his feces. I’ve had him on a stool softner as well as meds to help his colon. He has continued to throw up so his vet gave me anti nausea meds. They have helped him, but he continues to lose weight and won’t eat much at all. He’s lost about 2 lbs in two weeks. His vet says there’s nothing else to do for him and that some cats colons just give out and stop working. He hides most days and comes out for a few minutes when I come home from work and sometimes will come say good morning when my alarm goes off. He doesn’t seem to be in pain, but How long do I go when he’s losing about 1 lb a week and he’s eating very little. I’m having a hard time making the decision to let him go…please advise.

    • Hi Kelli,

      I’m sorry to hear about your cat, that sounds very distressing for both Mocha and you?

      What kind of food is he eating?

      I really don’t know what to recommend other than maybe seeking a second opinion from a cat specialist veterinarian. Do you have any in your area, or any teaching hospitals? They would be better able to help you than myself in this case as it sounds very complicated.

  65. Thanks for this article, it helped some. My baby girl of 14 years seems to be going down hill slowly. Her fur looks different, she’s a bit slower, she’s lost a lot of weight. First the weight loss from my mom only feeding her and her sister since my dad fed them a lot more but now it seems to be from more than just less food daily. So hopefully if she passes on in the next year or so it’s not with so much pain. I’ll defintely cry a ton but st least I can make her last year one filled with love.

  66. Thank you for this article. My precious Nikki is 16 and coming to the end. I knew before reading this, now I’m sure. I’m waiting on lab tests but I have a feeling I will be saying good bye to her in a few days. I will be putting her to sleep as she has suffered so much already in her life. I’m crying as I type this, however, I know it is what’s best.
    Thank you again for the article.

  67. Just lost my Gracie girl. 14 years was not enough. She was fine and then one day I noticed she wasn’t eating. Brought her immediately to the vet and she had a fever. They could not bring it down with medicine. 3 more visits and 5 days later and she was gone. The most traumatic and awful experience of my life.

    • Hi Jen,

      I’m so sorry to hear of the loss of Gracie. It sounds like it was an extremely traumatic time during and now, afterwards.

      It is hard, you are not alone, many of us know the pain of losing a cat. Please take care of yourself.

  68. Starting to wonder if his time is near: Growing up we had indoor/outdoor cats. One of them ran off at 15 and never came home. The other I found under my bed with glossed over eyes at 15 as well. Now, fast forward 20 yrs, my first kitty in adult life just turned 15 this month. He’s always been indoors. He’s always been the cat who ate and threw up, but it was undigested food. Now he’s not eating, but he’s still throwing up. He is hydrating. He still jumps up into the window for sunbathing and fresh air. He can still jump onto the bed. I’m noticing weight loss though!! I gave him a full “pet down” and didn’t feel any masses or see any signs of discomfort to my touch. He’s already been confined to my daughters bedroom after behavioral urinating began. Vet gave him the A-Okay at that time. Turns out he doesn’t like his dog-siblings and prefers being separated from them. He’s stopped the behavioral urinating now that his litter/food/bed/space are all shut off from the dogs.

    The vet says well bring him in for a blood test….I’m struggling with paying the $200.00 that would cost…My ONLY concern is that my sweet boy isn’t in pain. Any feedback on end of life and things I should look for? This is my first go-round losing a pet.

    • Hi Ashley,

      Sorry to hear your kitty isn’t feeling well. It’s really impossible to know without a diagnosis. Is there a way to borrow the $200 or ask the vet if you can pay it in installments?

  69. I am crying as I read this and look at my sweet kitty whose days are numbered. She has Cancer . I don’t know when I will see it is time to let Her go but it is soon . She came along , a rescue , about 5 years ago . We Both needed a new lease on life at the time . She helped Me and I hope I helped Her . Thank You for the article

  70. Hello Julia
    I found you blog very interesting and comforting. My dear old cat is nearly 17 years old. We have had a wonderful life together but his poor old body is starting to break down. Incontinence and diahorrea. I found by reading your article I am prepared to make that heartbreaking decision now when the right time is to have him euthanised.
    I have been feeling so guilty to even think about it and hoping he will just die naturally but sometimes as you say you have to make that decision for them. It is not about how we feel it’s about them and their quality of life.
    Thank you.

    • Hi Jane,

      I’m sorry to hear about your cat. It’s just as hard when they are old, even if we know logically that they have had a good and long life. It’s not easy to say goodbye to them, but you are 100% correct when you say it’s about their quality of life. We owe it to them to let go, even though it is so hard to do.

      I wish you both all the best, take care and than you for your comments.

  71. Thank you for this article and I am so sorry for the loss you experienced. I need to be strong when my time comes . Sushi has kidney disease – he was born with deformed kidneys. Whoever had him, just dumped him behind an apartment building. Their loss is my gain. I have loved him now for 2 years and he greatly improved upon my care after learning the foods to feed him and the daily hydration and stomach pills I give him at home. He has put on a great deal of weight and is happy and very playful. I am grateful for everyday I see him enjoying his life and want to be there for him until the end. I cry now, and he is still good. God Bless.

    • HI Joyce,

      Thanks for your kind comments. I agree with what you say about their loss, I feel the same way about my dog who was dumped in a pound, he’s the best dog ever 🙂 Kidney disease is certainly a condition which requires a huge amount of work from the carer, so kudos to you for what you have done. Good luck and keep it up.

  72. I lost my beautiful mainecoon, Rocket, yesterday. He was 15 and had a sinus/facial tumor. My twins and myself made the difficult decision to put him down. I’ve been struggling ever since. He was an amazing boy, more doglike than catlike. He loved to be around and on people. He was the most loving cat I’ve ever seen and everyone loved him. I came across this post and I just wanted you to know it helped alleviate some of the pain. Thank you.

    • Hi Dawn, I’m so sorry for your loss, how devastating for you. It is devastating to say goodbye to a pet, but remember that you had 15 wonderful years with Rocket and it is an unspoken contract that at the end, we must be strong and ease their suffering. It’s those left behind who have to grieve, but Rocket had a great life and a loving family, try to remember that 🙂

  73. Mama adopted us 13 years ago. The last week she has been stretched out on the couch sleeping more than usual. Labored breathing, She can’t drink water, although I can tell she wants to. She is very thin. I wiped her coat down this morning with a damp washcloth. She has been laying in one spot for the past several days. She is not eating. She can barely meow. Is it time?

    • Hi Tara,

      I’m sorry for the delay in getting back to you. It sounds to me that Mama needs to see a veterinarian for some help. Please let me know how you go.

  74. Thanks for this information! I have a 17.5 year old cat. She has been passed around in my family from my nieces to my mom and, for the last 7 years, to me. This is my first experience with a dying cat. I strive to keep her as comfortable as possible. This article reinforced some things I have already been doing and gave me some other helpful ideas to assist her during this time. I can’t thank you enough. Along with a recent vet visit, this information has eased my mind immensely.

    • Hi Carol,

      Thanks so much for your comments. I’m glad the article has been helpful. You sound like a wonderful carer. That’s all our cats can ask for.

  75. I have a 16 year old male tabby. For the past two years he is constantly getting constipated and throws up. We have had many vet visits and he is on grain free wet food with a tsp of Miralax in his food, but every couple of weeks still gets constipated. He also wanders around the house starting around 4:30am howling very loud. The vet has prescribed a tranquilizer but the cat throws it up. He’s old so is this cat dementia?

  76. My sweet baby boy Maddigan is 4 years old. He got sick out of the blue. Was chylothorax. They put him on a diuretic and the fluid was gone At his 5 day checkup. I was so relieved. Then the next day he stopped eating, but was still drinking. It’s been 3 days now. I syringe feed him baby food twice a day, but I dont know when I should just let go. He still has perky moments…he still does thi gs he used to, but mostly he sleeps. What do I do??? I’ve had him since the moment he was born. I was there. He is my bff. I am a disabled veteran with PTSD and anxiety…he is my therapy pet. This is so hard.

    • Hi Crystal, I’m so sorry to hear about your boy. What does the vet think? I hope they can guide you and he pulls through. Please keep me updated.

  77. I had to put to sleep Precious,a cat I had for 11 and a half years. We had many memories we shared together, good and bad. She was my world wihout end.and she was such a sweetheart every day of her life. She would listen to soft music while laying right next to me and would she begin to quietly purr. I miss her deeply but not anymore suffering from her painful dental disease as I couldn’t afford $1000 – $2000 to have all her teeth removed. Till I recently she was fine and eating canned cat food. I came
    home from being away and Precious’s mouth was all bloody and so was her front PAWS and on the floor, too! Took her to the vet and he said it again about her teeth. I decided it was time to release her from pain and put her to sleep…..No pain anymore Precious! I gently squeezed her with tears in my eyes….”I love you forever my kitty baby!”

    • Hi Karen,

      I’m so sorry for your the loss of Precious. I can tell by your post that you loved her dearly. We all understand here how hard it is to say goodbye. Please take comfort that Precious had 11.5 happy years being loved by you.

  78. Lazt night we had to take a stray to be put to sleep. She was a cat that we have been feeding for a few years now and grew to love. I am having a hard time with it and can not figure out why. We found her on the back porch just laying there and her eyes had tears in them. We found a wound near her tail that was very deep & had maggots in it. I have been questioning weather or not she could have lived if we had been able to do more. We couldn’t afford a vet & finally found one that agreed to put her to sleep without payment. There was odor coming from the wound and she looked so bad but what if is all i keep thinking. I didn’t get to stay with her & worry about if she was scared because she was calm with us and she was a little jumpy when we got to the vet. I can’t seem to get it off my mind and don’t know why

    • Hi Kristen,

      I’m so sorry for your loss. I don’t think it matters if you’ve cared for a cat for 1 day or 15 years, it is still painful. You did the very best you could for her, please remember that.

  79. I have had the privilege of being with 2 of my cats when they were euthanized, I was lucky that the vet knew me and allowed me to go into the back of the clinic…some vets think it better to take your cat from you. I was able to hold them and make them feel safe and loved whilst receiving the final injection. It wasn’t easy, but I am glad that their final moments were in my arms…thank you for writing this, To be with them at the end is emotional, but should be viewed as a gift of love to them for all they have us.

    • Hi Andrea,

      Thanks for your response. I’ve only been with one of my cats, and I almost said no. It’s usually my husband and teenage daughter who do that. But this last time I knew I had to do it. It was so hard, but we owed it to him to be there. I will never miss another euthanasia again, they give us so much during their life, and it’s nice to be able to be with them at the end, if we can do it.

  80. I’ve had my little bear (Snowball) since she was 5 weeks old. She’s 11 years old now and I still talk to her like she’s a baby. She is my shadow. Follows me everywhere she can and she is very talkative and playful and loves to cuddle. She plays fetch and loves her squeaky mice. She always sleeps in bed with me on my left side. If there’s not room on the left, she lightly meows and patiently waits for me to make a space for her. Then she goes to her spot and lays down right against me. She’s the first to greet me when I come home. My buddy started becoming lethargic and less talkative last week and stopped eating. We took her into the vet and found she was in severe kidney failure and had some stones as well. The vet tried diuresing her, have anti nausea meds so she could eat, pain medicine, and Gabapentin to help keep her calm. Sadly, the diuresis isn’t working so we will discuss end of life care to keep my fluffy baby as comfy as possible until the end. I am willing to euthanize if she appears too withdrawn and restless and not eating, etc. I don’t want her to be in pain. She’s such a good girl and has been my constant, loving, and loyal companion for over a decade. I say she’s my puppy because she has the mannerisms of a dog. Snowball is her own entity, has her own little sassy personality, and there won’t be another kitty like her. I will miss her so incredibly much and my husband and I will feel her void in our house everyday. I have to do right by my best little buddy. Thanks for this post. It’s helping me decided how to prepare my home and how to talk with my vet about how to care for my sweet bear at the end. Thank you.

    • Thank you for your kind words Celeste. I understand what you mean about puppy, I’ve had two cats like that and they were very special. I wish you and Snowball all the best 🙂

  81. I’m bawling my eyes out as I read this article. It says everything that my head already knows, but my heart just doesn’t want to let go of our precious 14 1/2 year old snowshoe, Louie. He has had good and bad days over the past year or so. Blood tests awhile back showed that SOME kind of cancer is active, but we have not tested further, as we don’t want to put him through more tests and chemo if that’s the case. He suddenly stopped eating Thursday, and retreated to hide in our bedroom closet. Usually he is out with the family and his feline companions. He stopped sleeping with us, and is just not eating…at least not that I’m seeing. Even his favorite treats which would have him running are of no interest to him. This is so, so hard…. but I’m sure that the next few days will be the last. Thanks for being here. It’s so, so hard and the tears won’t stop. How in the world are they going to stop so I can be with him at the end?

    • Hi Sharon,

      I’m so sorry to hear your cat is so sick. Please don’t worry about tears, we all cry when we have to say goodbye. It is totally okay. Good luck, I will be thinking about you both. Take care.

  82. Hello 🙂 i adopted my cat when she was a kitten about a year ago. She gave birth to 4 kittens 2 months ago. These few weeks she was not eating and had no energy. Her fur was turning yellow. The first few days, she was vomiting and it eventually stopped when the vet gave us vitamins for her. Since she has lost a lot of weight, my mom decided to feed her cat milk. She is still not feeling well now. My family says she will die over time but i do not believe them…
    I sometimes cant prevent the tears when i look at her but i hope someday she will be fine and healthy. I will not lose hope :’ )

  83. Thank you for this post. As I read my 19 year old cat, Sylvester, is on my lap wrapped in a blanket and I believe possibly in his last hours. He’s been the most amazing resilient pet we’ve ever had. Last spring we had to euthanize our black lab, Sadie. She was 8 years old with a brain tumor. I still cry over her we have 2 other dog and Sylvester liked Sadie best, this is breaking my heart to see him so thin and weak these past months. Today he took a turn for the worst. I’ve sobbed over him and pray that he would pass peacefully tonight otherwise I will have to take him in tomorrow and with all my heart, i don’t want to…but I know its best for him. I pet him and feel his tiny tummy rise and fall but he’s so disoriented and falls over, walks into walls and no interest in foo so I know I need to just let him be on my lap for however long he wants…

  84. I have a older female tabby cat who recently got outside by accident. Before we adopted her she was a outdoor stray so she does know how to take care of herself. My son let her out last year as well and she was absolutely fine in terms of acting the same upon return. However this time she seems to be declining in her health. She won’t eat, drinks a ton and pees, doesn’t seem interested in cuddling with me ( she use to always come to me and want to be snuggled) now starting to limp. She is a petite cat as it but now seems like she is skin and bones literally. She is around 14 years old. Could this be time for her to be euthanized? I’m just not sure if she is in pain or not she is able to jump up onto this chair we have in the basement and to drink from the toilet. Any suggestions? We don’t really want to be spending a fortune on vet expenses as money is tight. But don’t want to see her suffer either

    • Hi Meaghan,

      Three common disorders in senior cats are diabetes, hyperthyroidism and kidney disease. All of them can be managed, early intervention is better. Your vet can do bloodwork to determine the health status of your cat. Hyperthyroidism and kidney disease can be managed with diet.

  85. Hi thank you for this article. I am concerned about our cat. She was a stray that we’ve had for around 7 years. We’ve never taken her to the vet. She has been in good health and everything until the past year. She was always an inside/outside cat, and had a litter box but stopped using it and started peeing and pooping in the house. My husband decided she would have to be an outside cat after this started happening. Well, most recently she’s lost weight and her hair is falling out. She’s balding on her back. It happened quickly. There’s been clumps of hair on our front porch. She’s been more verbal with us lately too and my daughter doesn’t think she’s eating as much. We can not afford to treat whatever is wrong with her. I plan to take her to a vet for some initial advice. Do you have any thoughts or ideas for me?

    • Hi Jill,

      I’m sorry to hear about your cat. The most common diseases in older cats which cause weight loss are hyperthyroidism, kidney disease, diabetes and cancer. The first three can be managed with diet. Your vet should be able to do baseline blood work to evaluate for kidney disease and diabetes. Hyperthyroidism needs a T3 & T4 test (blood test), and cancer usually requires imaging. But the baseline tests may give your vet a clue.

      Good luck, I hope it’s something that can be managed.

  86. We take these precious creatures into our lives and they become family. We love them and they love us. They are a gift. I am a survivor of Domestic Violence and if it were not for my cats I don’t think I would have the strength to endure. I looked into their eyes and they told me “you have to do it for us and you” I have been away from my abuser three years now.
    I have witnessed my cats passing. It is not for the faint of heart. I chose to have my cat pass at home, She was terminal. She was given pain relief. She slept for 2 days prior to her passing. During the last 2 hours of her life she went into seizures and began yowling and all the time was looking into my eyes. I held her and kept her comfortable. I kept telling her I was there and it was OK for her to go. It was the most heart wrenching experience I ever had, but in the same sense I felt good about it because I was there for her. She took a few last breaths and she became peaceful. I cried for 2 days. By no means am I recommending this to a family that has children or can not handle watching the death of an animal. But if the animal is given pain relief and is an alternative to having to go to a vet to be euthanized, so that they can pass in a natural way at home I do think they should. I still miss my “Bean”, and I have her offspring living with me. 2 females and 3 males. One has just been diagnosed with the same thing Bean passed from. 🙁 I will do it again for my friend.

  87. So I just took in an 18 year old cat and I think he is dieing. His breathing is very slow and raspy he still eats chicken but refuses to eat normal food he’s also extremely skinny and keeps leaning. He doesn’t appear to be in pain though and is still trotting around outside . Should I get him euthanased or let him live out his last days?

  88. Such compassionate yet sensible advice as I think about Miss Tilly, whose skin cancer appears to be returning, I noticed as I stroked her tonight. Thank you.

  89. Hi there, what a well written post, I have had many cats over the last 50 years but none quite like my darling Ashley who I had to get euthanised last week,it was one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do, I honestly thought she was going to make 20 because as most people said for an 18 year old cat she looked so good, her decline was rapid and it was a very aggressive form of intestinal cancer, she rallied a bit on antibiotics as she often did with the odd bladder infection but this time there was something lurking under her beautiful fur coat (she still looked so good), I decided to agree to an ultrasound which I kind of regret now because that in itself took a lot out of her and I had no idea they would shave her entire belly and some of her sides, plus the sedation took its toll but from that we did know it was terminal and I made sure she did not suffer anymore than she had to. It is very difficult to work out just when is the right time as you said and to balance out what to put them through before making that decision. What I will say though is the 24 hours before I had Ashley euthanised I made sure she got heaps of love, warmth and gentle strokes, the love of a pet is the best but boy it’s hard when we have to say goodbye 🙁

    • Hi Steph,

      I’m so sorry for your loss. Sometimes we have an extra special relationship with one cat. I’m so glad that you were able to give Ashley an extra special last day, that must have meant a lot to both of you.

      Take care, I do understand how you are feeling.

  90. I just lost my sweet girl Irezumi on Friday Jul 27, 2018. She was just over a month shy of 17.5 years old. She was MY first cat. I had had many cats as a kid but she my first as an adult. I got her when I was about 22 & I am almost 40 now. She was truly my special girl. She went everywhere with me, to my beach house on Lake Huron, my husband’s family farm, friends homes & more. She walked on a leash & everyone that met her loved her dearly. In her final days she had many loving comments of people that knew her & many came to my house to say their goodbyes to her. The night before she passed she was in her bed & we were laying on the couch together. I lay with my head rested next to her & stroked her fur. She purred & purred, it was the first time in a couple weeks I heard her purr. The next morning she told me it was time (we had that kind of a bond). I took her outside laid her in the grass, stroked her fur & told her how much I loved her & what a great kitty she was. I run a cat rescue & have many of my own personal cats, I miss her so much & my house doesn’t feel the same without her. 😭

    • Hi Suzy, I’m so sorry to hear of the passing of sweet Irezumi. What a beautiful bond you two had. I know you miss her dearly, but try to remember the amazing 17.5 years you had with her. You are obviously a very kind person running a cat rescue and helping those less fortunate. Take care and thank you for your comments.

  91. I found a cat that is dehydrated, skin and bones. I got her to eat a little soft cat food along with half a teaspoon Of tuna. Then she threw it up. I am currently giving her water threw a syringe. What else can I do?

  92. Hello, thank you so much for making this post! Today I took my cat Niko to the vet after he had been missing for 5 days. The vet said that he had burned his whole mouth on an electrical wire or he got into some chemicals. Niko is not eating or drinking and has not eaten or drank in 5 days! I can tell he wants to. The vet gave him pain killers and antibiotics. They also said that if he didn’t eat or drink he would obviously go down hill very fast! Getting a feeding tube is incredibly expensive and unaffordable for me! I need help! Please keep in mind he is only an outdoor cat.

    • Gosh Madeleine, that is a difficult situation, I am so sorry to hear about Niko. Are you able to hand feed him soft food such as baby food (without onion or garlic in the ingredients)?

  93. Hi there,
    My 18 year old cat Tigger meows non stop on a daily. He still eats and drinks like he always has but he also sleeps constantly. I usually wouldn’t take to the internet for this kind of thing, but do you have any advice on what to do? I’ve been told it’s time to put him down, but is it really time?

  94. Today is not a good day. I just lost Casper, my friend, and companion of 16 1/2 wonder years. He’ was very healthy and playful up until yesterday. He went very quickly, I knew this morning that today was the last time I would see his yellow eyes watching me, with muscular white fur body ready to pounces on my blue jeans once my legs were resting on the coffee table, with his playfulness cat attitude. Which by the way, was Casper favorite spot, we had a close bond. I couldn’t and wouldn’t take him to our vet. I knew, and he knew, he was dying it was strange, can’t explain it, but I knew his place was here to pass on to the other side, which was his home that was full of love and memories. Casper knew I would respect his wishes to be here. It’s beautiful and quiet at home, not at some vet place. I had my last cup of coffee with him this morning just looking at him, and saying it okay, and I love you… and I know you love me.
    He was loved from the first time I laid eyes on him. He’s from Mama Kitty she was a stray from who knows where, but we took her in and let her bed down in the garage, with food, water, and shelter, she had two litters, and Casper came from the second litter. He was the wild one of the bunch, the day he was born I had my eye on him, and about the seventh week or so! He came up to me, and crawled up into my lap and started kneading me with those sharp little claws through my blue jeans, I knew he an I were meant for each other, at that moment he was given the name Casper. He has been on planes, driven across the United State’s with me, been through a Divorce, and several girlfriends. He’s had this thing about mayonnaise, and it had to be Best foods real mayonnaise. In the morning, he would hear me go into the kitchen and grab the bread. From that sound, he knew it was time for his mayonnaise, so I would go through our thing of him just sitting there watching me open the refrigerator door and grab the Best Foods, I would have to show him the jar, then he would meow, then I have to open the drawer and show him the butter knife, then he would meow again. I would reach the butter knife into the jar, by that time his little tongue would be going crazy, while he would meowing, and I again at dinner time, After everytime I would say: you feel better, that you got your mayonnaise fix on Casper? He would meow and walk away, little shit! Casper had to have two cups of water at the other side of the sofa on the end table. Even though, he had a water bowl by is food. He would lay down on my side of the end table with the light on, for the warmth. But his favorite spot was on my legs, while in my blue jeans, resting on the coffee table. I will miss him jumping on the bed at night, and him pawing at my face every night before I go to sleep, he would stay there until I rolled over, then he jumps off, and do whatever he did. Casper was always there when I rolled over to turn off the alarm. Casper will be missed

  95. I have a cat that is 13 years old. For the last 6 months or so, his breathing has gotten more labored. It sounds like his lungs are full of fluids and he’s drowning. Every day he vomits. He’s gotten so thin. Does anyone know what the cause of these symptoms might be? I’m sure he’s suffering and as much as I hate to, I think the time has come to put him to sleep. I’m on disability so money is hard to come by. Will vets normally either let you pay based on your income or let you make payments?

  96. My 25 year old kitty, CoCo may be coming to the end of his life. All he seems to do now is sleep, and it doesn’t look like he’s interested in food or water. I hand fed him a little grass, thinking that is usually something he’d eat if he was sick. He loves to lie on my lap or chest when I’m lounging on the couch, but he doesn’t even want to do that. I’ve noticed that he has several mats in his fur and he’s been pulling plugs of his fur out trying to remove them. He’s aloof and doesn’t immediately respond when I call him, which is very rare. I want to take him to the vet, but this is a particularly bad financial week for me, and I also don’t want to stress him by placing him in his carrier. This is a very difficult situation and I pray that he either bounces back or doesn’t suffer. I know he’s up in age, but all of his changes in behavior have just started in the past two days. I’ve been stroking his head and back and giving him lots of love so if he is dying, he knows I love him and am here for him.

  97. Hi Julia, my 1 1/2 year old kitty Praowy got diagnosed last month for coronavirus but not FIP. According to the vet, the only thing they’re certain of, is she has coronavirus (but not what type). I reside in Philippines where there is no support group, and unfortunately, no treatment for FIP. The vet says she needs to be tested in 3 months (October 2018) to find out if it has turned into FIP. Praow is eating less wet food. I’ve had to to puree her food and add warm water so she can just lick it up. She does eat dry food.

    Some days I think I see symptoms, llike fluid in the tummy but it also looks like she gained weight. I realise maybe I’m also in denial.

    Do FIP symptoms take a painfully long while to appear?
    I’m in suspense everyday and I cherish every cuddle because I don’t know if it’ll be her last. She does seeem totally normal except for the loss of appetite.

    • Hi Jennifer,

      I’m sorry to hear about your cat. I must admit, FIP is one disease that I really know so little about because it is so confusing. I am assuming your cat has a high titre?

      This is my experience, and not medical advice. Many many years ago I had a cat who I had planned to breed with. I had her tested for coronavirus titre and the results came back extremely high. In fact, the lab thought that she must have had full blown FIP with those results. In a panic, I contacted a leading feline veterinarian who said something to the effect of ‘a healthy cat is a healthy cat’, which basically she was. She had absolutely no symptoms. Se lived for another 10 years without incidence.

      I would follow your vet’s advice and re-test in 3 months. Keep her stress free and hope that symptoms don’t develop.

      • Dear Julia, my vet didnt give me the details, so I don’t know if Praowie has a high titre. But I will call vet and find out and I will follow your advice and have her re tested this october. That is strange, that the cat you spoke about showed positive for coronavirus and yet lived a healthy life. This is encouraging news. I hope Praowie is as lucky. Thank you so much for your advice! I really appreciate it. 🙂

        • I’ll see if I can find the email the vet sent me all those years ago, I’m pretty sure I printed it out and kept it. FIP is such a mysterious and frustrating disease. I hope Praowie stays well.

  98. (Sorry I am not sure how to introduce myself)

    My cat has recently been hiding in a bush outside for 3 days now. I just found her and she looked weak and not herself. A lot of these symptoms apply to her, (drooling, loss of appetite and water, messy coat, and restless sleepi all the time.)
    I am unsure if she is in her final days, but I am getting clues that she might be.

    Since I had just found her today I am unsure if I should schedule a vet appointment, or just leave her peace. I am going to bring her inside to let her rest peacefully for as long as she has.( I have mats for if she does have bladder issues.)

    I just need some advise or anything that might be useful to do to help her at all.
    Please let me know.. (she is 14 years
    old too)


    • Hi Kaylen,

      I”m sorry to hear about your cat. Definitely schedule a veterinary appointment. They will be able to determine what is wrong with her, and help make her comfortable.

      Good luck and please let me know how she goes. 14 is senior, but many cats can live beyond that age.

      • I will try to get an appointment after I find her again…. I went to go get things for her to make her comfortable, but she disappeared again when it started storming.

        I guess my best thing is to find her in the morning and see how she is from there.

        Thank you so much.


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