Why do cats go to people who don’t like them?
People ask this question a lot on the forums and the answer is simple.
People who love cats will attempt to engage with them. Picture this, you visit a friend whose cat is quietly sitting there observing, and you want a cuddle, what do you do? You lean forward, speak in a high tone, look directly at the cat and call him over. To a cat, direct eye contact is a sign of dominance and can be viewed as threatening behaviour. He doesn’t like it and will avoid you.
Meanwhile, the visitor who doesn’t like cats quietly sits down avoids all eye contact with the cat and hopes the cat will stay away. He is behaving in such a way that is viewed as non-threatening towards the cat. So who does Fluffy go to? The non-cat lover.
Eye contact with cats is an interesting subject. If you make direct eye contact with a cat and blink very slowly, it is seen as friendly behaviour. You are telling the cat that you are not threatening, and if you watch carefully, your cat may blink slowly back at you. This is the ultimate compliment.
So next time you visit a friend with a cat, sit down, look at the cat and slowly blink at him, or ignore him. Either way, you will be more likely to get his attention, if that is what you want.
Ailurophilia is the love of cats. Ailurophobia is a fear of cats.